Over the years, our society has started to demonstrate a greater amount of hedonistic values towards life. We have started to move from hidden appreciation of aspects like sex and economics towards a more open approach. The debate between monogamy vs. polygamy has been set, and it has caused many reactions in society. Although the values of this society have been moving towards hedonism, I still believe that monogamy is the best option. The value of love and the problems that define why polygamy is not the answer to our hedonistic views make me settle for monogamy.
Our society has forgotten about the pure and innocent value of love. All throughout history, we have had marriages that were filled with treachery and secrets because people were not able to keep a monogamous relationship with their spouse. I believe that our society has to move away from the modern fashions of infidelity and remember our traditional and core values. The tendencies that humans are pulling towards are to simply give up whenever faced with a problem and move onto something without attachment and responsibility. “In sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honour and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.” These vows are not conditions, they are promises, and I do not believe that people should get married if they are not absolutely and unconditionally sure that they can keep this sacred promise. Love is not about giving up, it is about winning the battle no matter how hard it is, which is why I believe that our traditional values should be the ones that we live up to. In my opinion, polygamy is an aspect of enriching economics and augmenting our hedonistic pleasures. How many people have you met that have a sufficient amount of money to obtain everything they want, but are not happy? Loneliness follows you wherever you go, and there is no sum of money or momentary pleasure that can get rid of it. I believe in the value of love, in the honour one must feel when that love survives that battle and in the importance of commitment, which is why monogamy is the most valuable way of life.
Monogomous marriages tend to set a more stable environment for a child. The reason for this is because the social norms of this society is one father and one mother. We are not used to seeing polygamous marriages, which is why we think that a child will have a better upbringing if their parents are part of a monogomous marriage compared to a polygamous marriage. In my opinion, children will be better off with two parents because they will be complying to social norms, which is always advantageous for humans. We need to create environments where children can be as socially accepted as possible.
Although our society has been recognized to be a highly hedonistic society, we need to remember the importance and the value of love, as well as the dangers that polygamy can bring. The precious idea of marriage was to unite two people due to the power of love, not because of economics or hedonistic views.
